Boundaries, Self-Love, and Blue Lace Agate: Healing Through Intuition and Inner Dialogue

Keywords: boundaries in relationships, self-love practices, blue lace agate meaning, inner child healing, Practically Magick podcast, crystal healing Utah, Prism Healing, Rising Moon Minerals

In Season 2, Episode 7 of Practically Magick, hosts Courtney Pearl and Jamie Osborne dive deep into the emotional and energetic terrain of boundaries, self-worth, and parenting through intuition. Recorded at Rising Moon Minerals in Riverton, Utah, this episode is a masterclass in spiritual growth, crystal wisdom, and the messy beauty of healing.

Oracle Pull: Boundaries and the Fire Within

The episode opens with a card pull from the Spell Casting Oracle Deck, revealing the theme of Boundaries. The card’s imagery—a woman meditating within a ring of fire—sparks a powerful conversation about energetic protection, self-respect, and the solar plexus chakra.

“How do I love unconditionally and still hold boundaries?”

Courtney shares that many of her recent healing sessions have centered around this question. While boundaries are often associated with the sacral chakra and codependency, she’s seeing more connections to the solar plexus, where self-worth and personal power reside.

Jamie adds that boundaries are essential for maintaining emotional balance, especially for people pleasers who struggle to prioritize their own needs.

“I lived most of my life thinking it doesn’t matter how I feel—it matters how everyone else feels.”

The Myth of Unconditional Giving

The hosts explore the cultural conditioning that equates love with self-sacrifice. From family dynamics to workplace expectations, many people are taught that setting boundaries is selfish or unkind.

“We’ve been conditioned to believe that love means giving all of yourself, all the time.”

But as Courtney explains, resentment builds when we overextend ourselves. Without boundaries, even the most loving relationships can deteriorate. The key is learning to say “no” with compassion and clarity.

Parenting, Expectations, and Emotional Blow-Ups

Jamie shares personal stories about parenting and how lack of boundaries led to emotional explosions.

“I gave and gave and gave until I had nothing left. Then I exploded.”

Courtney adds that expectations—especially unspoken ones—can create tension in relationships. Whether it’s expecting a spouse to help with chores or a child to behave a certain way, unmet expectations often lead to frustration and conflict.

“We expect people to know what we need without saying it. That’s unreasonable.”

The solution? Open communication, self-awareness, and a willingness to let go of control.

Boundaries in Business and Leadership

Jamie reflects on her experience as a business owner and the challenges of managing employees.

“I expected my staff to run the shop the same way I do. But everyone makes mistakes. Everyone does things differently.”

She’s learning to balance forgiveness with accountability, and to set clear expectations without micromanaging.

Courtney adds that boundaries are just as important in professional settings as they are in personal relationships. Whether it’s a colleague, client, or employee, knowing where your limits are—and communicating them—is key to maintaining healthy dynamics.

The Power of Inner Dialogue

The conversation shifts to the importance of inner dialogue and how our thoughts shape our reality. Courtney shares insights from You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero, where every chapter ends with the reminder to love yourself.

“We’ve been taught that shame is how we grow. But it’s a lie. Self-love is where success begins.”

Jamie adds that Blue Lace Agate, the crystal of the week, is perfect for supporting healthy inner dialogue and gentle communication.

Crystal of the Week: Blue Lace Agate

Blue Lace Agate is a soft, sky-blue crystal known for its calming energy and connection to the throat chakra. Jamie explains that it’s ideal for:

• Gentle communication
• Self-expression
• Reducing inflammation and anxiety
• Healing inner dialogue

“If you want something that gently says, ‘You can do this,’ Blue Lace Agate is the one.”

Unlike the bold energy of Lapis Lazuli, which pushes you to speak your truth with power, Blue Lace Agate offers a nurturing, supportive vibration. It’s perfect for those who are learning to communicate with compassion—both with others and themselves.

Parenting and Radical Acceptance

Courtney shares her journey of parenting a child who challenges every expectation she had. From early childhood to adolescence, her son has taught her the importance of radical acceptance.

“I thought I could mold him. But he is who he is. And I had to learn to let go.”

She reflects on how trying to control her son’s behavior—especially in public—was rooted in fear of being perceived as a “bad mom.” But over time, she realized that other people’s boundaries are not hers to enforce.

Jamie adds that her own son is similar, always pushing limits and testing boundaries. She’s learned to warn teachers and mentors, but ultimately, it’s up to them to set their own boundaries.

“He’ll push until you push back. That’s just who he is.”

This leads to a powerful insight: What other people think of you is none of your business.

Generational Healing and Breaking the Cycle

The hosts explore how generational patterns—especially around parenting and self-sacrifice—can be healed through awareness and intention. Courtney shares stories about her grandmother, who spent her life worrying about her adult sons and enabling their struggles.

“She gave everything, even her inheritance, trying to fix their problems. But it never changed anything.”

Jamie adds that her therapist once asked, “If your brother were a stranger, would you continue this relationship?” The answer was no. That moment gave her permission to set boundaries, even with family.

“No one has the right to treat you in a way that makes you feel bad. Not even family.”

Redefining Success Through Self-Love

As the episode comes full circle, Courtney and Jamie reflect on how success is often defined by external standards—money, achievement, approval. But true success starts with self-love.

“What if you can’t achieve what you’re trying to achieve until you believe you’re enough?”

Jamie shares a story about a trip to Vegas that helped her reset and recharge. When asked if she would have gone into debt for it, she said yes—because the healing was worth it.

“Sometimes you have to give and take. And not feel shame about it.”

Courtney adds that loving yourself through every step—even the messy ones—is the key to transformation.

Where to Find the Magic

Rising Moon Minerals
📍 Riverton, Utah (Mountain View Village)
🌐 risingmoonminerals.com
📱 Instagram: @rising_moon_minerals

Prism Healing by Courtney Pearl
🌐 prism-healing.com
📱 Instagram: @prism_healing
🎨 Offering energy healing, inner child work, and full moon Healing Through Art workshops.

Final Thoughts

This episode of Practically Magick is a powerful reminder that boundaries are not walls—they’re bridges to deeper connection. Whether you’re navigating parenting, relationships, or your own healing journey, the key is to love yourself enough to set limits.

Feeling called to redefine success and reconnect with your intuition?
Start with self-love.
Start with boundaries.
Start with magic.